I must be a big softie. That, or I don't feel comfortable in the black-and-white world of final answers. I like the mushy grey areas, where a woman can fathom the possibility of second chances at love. I thought, for example, that Miranda was pretty harsh to leave Steve with no discussion of his one-time infidelity, no attempt to figure out what went wrong (which was obvious) or to reconcile. But this post isn't about Miranda and Steve. It's about Carrie and Big. And I, for one, was happy with how things turned out between the two of them at the end of Sex and the City.
One of my friends said she thought Carrie's decision to marry Big at the end was a Big Mistake. "He'll hurt her again," she said. Yes, Big's momentary lapse of courage was painful to watch and even more painful for Carrie to absorb. (What a wrenching, tragic scene, when Carrie ran toward him on street, as wild as the blue bird attached to the side of her head, and began hitting him with her bouquet, over and over.) And yes, he's hurt her before with those commitment-phobic, cold feet. But in the end, I think she knew Big was only human, and she understood that Miranda's comment to him ("You're crazy to get married") freaked him out. And I think she knew Big was uncomfortable with the big "circus" wedding more than he was with committing to Carrie. He was committed to Carrie. I don't think that was ever in question.
In the end, Carrie followed her heart. Maybe she will be hurt again. Maybe the life they have won't be perfect. But it's the life she chose, and I think that's OK. Maybe she felt being with Big would ultimately fulfill her in a way being without him would not. Big was always the one for her, and I think she decided to let her heart make the decision, even if her head was refusing to read his e-mails or call him. That was the same advice she gave Miranda when Miranda was trying to decide whether to go back to Steve: This a decision you have to make with your heart, not your pro-con lists.
Thoughts on this or the rest of the movie?