Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Emilie’s Passing

Emile passed away in her sleep last night. I was holding her hand as she faded away. I loved her and will miss hear dearly, but I am happy to see her free of the pain and suffering. The services will be at the Basilica of St Mary on Monday, December 29th. Visitation is at 11:00 AM and mass will follow at Noon. Emile wanted me to share the following quote after she died.

"And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?

I did.

And what did you want?

To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth."

— Raymond Carver

Post by Stephen Lemmons

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Kristie said...

I'm so sorry Steve. I'm glad that you were there with her and that she is no longer in pain. I will miss her.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys.

Kristie Gorman

Kelly Syferd said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are in my thoughts & prayers.

Journey of the Spirit said...

Beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I hope you are all filled with peace through this incredible transition.

~Kelli said...

Hugs! I am so sorry to hear of your wife's passing. Many prayers to your family.

What a beautiful quote.

May Emilie rest in peace with the Lord.

M said...

I am so very sorry. I only came upon her blog yesterday and I haven't stopped thinking of her, and you, and your children. As a mother, my heart completely aches for your family.

Leigh Ann said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your children in my thoughts and prayers.

Stuart said...

Thank you, Stephen, for letting us know this. Emilie will be sorely missed ; may God be with her and with you and the family, too.

Neil and Rachel said...

What wonderful last words from Emilie.

I will be praying earnestly for your family,

Rachel

Brandy said...

Even though we dont know each other, my heart is saddened and my eyes are pouring down tears for you and your boys. Emilie was a wonderful mother, wife and person. I will continue to pray for you all. I am happy she is no longer in pain. God Bless you all!
Brandy & Family

DisneyJen said...

Steve-

Jaime and I both are saddened by the great loss of Emilie. She was a beautiful woman. She is being missed greatly and will never be forgotten. Thank you for bringing her into our lives and touching us so greatly with your love for one another. We are praying for you, your boys and her family as find peace.

Much Love,
Jennifer, Jaime, Hampton & Malia Velarde

LutherLiz said...

I am so sorry for your loss Steve. I know that you are aware of how much Emilie was loved. She is missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys.

Love,
Liz and Chris

togetherbetter said...

I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Brad said...

Oh Emilie, you were beloved indeed. We were blessed to know you. Your words and legacy will live on.

If there is anything you need, Steve, please let us know.

God bless you,
Lisa, Brad, and Liam

Jamie said...

I'm so very sorry Steve. You and boys are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I had the right words for you - but know that Emilie is loved by so many people, and we are all holding you in our hearts today.

Christi said...

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. You and your entire family will by in my thoughts. The quote she chose was amazing, thanks so much for sharing your life with all of us. I'm glad she is resting and watching over all of you.

G$ said...

My heart breaks for your loss. We will all miss Emilie's warm, loving writing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Kerry said...

We love you and the boys Steve, just as we loved Emilie. Thoughts and prayers to you in the days and weeks to come. All our love.

Jenni said...

Steve, I am so sorry for you, Daniel, and Ben. Emilie was an amazing woman and I am better for having known her. She certainly was beloved. I'm wishing you peace and the warmth of your family in this difficult time.

mnrn said...

Steve,
I am so sorry for your loss. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care.

Rachel Inbar said...

So shocked that this happened so fast... I'm glad Emilie has left you with her beautiful writing.

Wishing you a lot of strength to help you go on the way she would want you to.

Reese said...

Her spirit is strong and will forever be surrounding you and your boys.

I am so sorry for your loss. She will be missed....

Nissa said...

I am so very sorry. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I love that quote and it definitely suits her.

David said...

Emilie touched people who she never met. I will miss her remarkable words and strength. May you and your boys find comfort in your memories of her.

David Schwartz
Seattle

Jamie said...

She was an amazing woman who will be dearly missed. My heart goes out to you and your boys.

otrey3 said...

Heroic. Gentle. Strong. Smart as a whip. Beautiful. Super witty. Kind. Game. Brave. Entertaining conversationalist. Adoring mother. Tough adversary. Great writer. Dedicated wife. Dear friend. Wonderful mother.

--Laura S.

Princess Jo said...

Goodbye Emilie. I will mourn you even though we never met in person, and even though I only followed your story for a short while. You were brave and strong and touched my heart.

As for you, Steve and your children. I am very sorry for your loss: and what a big loss it is too. Take comfort from your boys: they are gifts from Emilie to you. Remember that you will never truly lose Emilie because she lives through your 2 beautiful boys. The next days, weeks and months are going to be hard and terrible, but hope is so important, and remember we as a blogging community are behind you all the way.

Sending you peaceful thoughts.

Jo

Christina said...

I had been so desperately hoping for some more words from Emilie. Thank you for sharing that beautiful quote, Steve.

I will be lifting you and your boys in my prayers during this most difficult time. You married an incredible woman! We will all miss her dearly.

Roxane B. Salonen said...

Steve,
I am so, so, sorry. I am grieving right now with you, and I've only met Emilie through email and blogging at our writers' list. But I felt connected to her in a profound way and am so sad....
Prayers for you all continue. Please...if you have it in you...write on Lemmondrops every once in a while...we are going to miss Emilie and her writing so much, but her spirit will remain.
Blessings,
Roxane in Fargo

Sheilah said...

My deepest sympathies at this time of great loss. I am so very sorry, and will continue my prayers for you and your family.

Marketing Mama said...

Steve, thank you for updating Emilie's blog. What a touching quote. I'm so sad for you and your family. I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.

Missy

Mona Wright said...

My deepest prayers go out to you and your family. She is such a beautiful place. I know you and your family will miss her terribly. I will remember her always, though never meeting her in person. My heart breaks for you and your boys.

Tracy said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.. my prayers are with you.

anti-supermom said...

I am so heartbroken for the loss of Emily, but so blessed to have meet her through this blog, through MN Ladies, she has changed my life and the way that I look at my own.

She is certainly a miracle.

My prayers to you and your children, Steve.

Meg said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Roxy said...

Steve - you are in our thoughts and prayers. You and the boys are just as special to us as Emilie. We are here if you need anything.

God Bless her. She will be watching over us.

Meredith said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Your wife and I never met, but she was an inspiration to me all the same. I hope you and your sons can find some peace in the coming days and months. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

k@lakly said...

I am so sorry that she is gone but hope there is some comfort that her suffering and pain are now over.
I did not know her but was awestruck by her strength and courage in the face of such a horrible, cruel disease. Her beauty will live on through her remarkable boys and her light here on earth will shine brightly in them.
Love and peace to your family.

liz said...

Steve, Seth and I grieve with you and the boys from afar. We love you and hold you close in our hearts and prayers. There is one more angel singing with the heavenly host tonight.

All our love,
Liz & Seth

MissMVK said...

I am so sorry for your great loss. No words can express this sadness, I am sure. My thoughts and prayers are with your family and especially your dear children.

mrsk2 said...

I'm just a random person on the internet, but I pray for peace and blessings on your family.

Gone From My Sight
by Henry Van Dyke

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone"

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"

And that is dying...

Death comes in its own time, in its own way.
Death is as unique as the individual experiencing it.

Michele (Moosh) said...

May God hold you close, now more than ever.

Our hearts and prayers are with you, Steve.

Stephanie said...

I am sory very sorry for your loss. You and your boys are in my prayers this Christmas season.

Carey said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Please know that you and your beautiful boys are in my thoughts and prayers.

Anna's Mommy said...

Steve, may all the fond memories of your time together bring you comfort now. God bless you all.

Theresa V.

OHN said...

Emilie's last post was lovely and I thought there would be more before she was gone. My prayers are with you and your children.

spencerbaker@me.com said...

Dearest Steve and Boys,

I am so sorry to hear of your huge loss. My family is thinking of yours and I hope in time you and your sons will be able to think of Emilie and feel nothing but joy.

Hold those two tigers tightly!

Best wishes,

Jen Baker

Motel Manager said...

I am so, so sorry to hear the news. I have always loved that Carver poem. Sending your family my thoughts and condolences. I am just so sorry you have to endure this loss.

Agape said...

I haven't been able to stop thinking about you and Emilie and the boys. I was up all night in and out of sleep praying for you.

May the Lord God grant that Emilie's soul rest where the righteous repose.

I am so sorry for your loss and the boy's loss. Emilie's memory will remain with me. I am grateful for all her writing and for all that she shared through her writing. You had a remarkable wife and the boys have a remarkable mother. I am so glad Emilie made her blog into beautiful books for the boys.

I will remember you all in prayer, always, especially during these difficult days and all through the years. I feel blessed to have been able to, in some way, "know" Emilie through her gift of writing.

May Christ our God, bless and comfort you and your precious family.

luna said...

I am so very sorry for the loss of your lovely wife. Thankful that she is no longer in pain, but my heart aches for you and your beautiful boys. Wishing you all some peace.

Emilie touched and inspired so many people who never knew her. She will continue to do so.

Tash said...

You're all in my thoughts. I'm so overwhelmingly sorry for your loss.

darcie said...

I am sooo very sorry for your loss. Emilie impacted my life in so many ways and I feel blessed to have gotten to know her over the past several months. She will be sorely missed.
Many hugs to you and your family during this most difficult time.

Ames said...

My heart is broken.
It truly is.
I am comforted by the quote and have been thinking about that quote for the past few days now.
It seems incredibly fitting.

She always knew what to say. Always.

I went through my emails this morning until I found the first ones we wrote to each other. It seems ages ago. I smiled when I read it over again. I am crying now as I type.

There are people masquerading as angels on Earth and Emilie was one of them. I didn't know what it was like to know her in real life and do in fact feel cheated in some shallow way for not having had that privilege. But I guess the fact that I didn't see her or know her in real life made her a better confidant for me.

She will be missed so deeply....and my words cannot even begin to describe that.

She is up there in Heaven painting sunsets telling God about all of us. I know she is. That makes me smile.

Thalia said...

Stephen, Daniel and Ben I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Your wife and your mother touched a lot of lives. I'm sure none of us can imagine what it feels like to be where you are right now. We are all thinking of you and offering you our distant support.

mo*reezy said...

Steve, Daniel, and Ben - you are being prayed for all over this country. I am grieving with you, even though we've never met. May God's comforting arms surround you in the form of family and friends.

Summer said...

Letter from Heaven
To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived today,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you,
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you are part of my plan
There's so much that we have to do to help our mortal man."
God gave me a fist of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
1 wish that I could tell you all that God has planned
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand
But one thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.


Copyright - Ruth Ann Mahaffey

Sara @ Happy Apple said...

Steve,
Know that you and the boys are surrounded by love right now, the same love that surrounded Emilie. She touched so many lives, in so many ways, and will be greatly missed. We are all praying for you.

Courtenay said...

My entire family is praying for you.

ME Gregory said...

I had just learned of Emilie's story this week. My husband and I talked about it a lot - our hearts just hurting for what you were facing.

I'm so sorry for your loss - we will continue to wish good thoughts for you and the boys as the days move on.

sharon said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I "met" Emilie several years ago on the old TTC board and became a regular reader of her blog. She has touched my life in so many ways, mostly by showing me to appreciate my good health, the health and love of my family and friends and to find joy and beauty in the simple pleasures of life.

I will add her name to the Yitzar prayer of remembrance.

May she rest in peace.

RSH said...

Dear Steve:
Your wife was a beautiful writer and there is nothing anyone can say that will make any of it better for you, but I pray her strong belief proves to be true and that you will feel her spirit in moments of joy as your life goes one. God bless you and all of us bless you too,
Renee Schafer Horton
Tucson, AZ

APB said...

Steve-
You and the boys are in our thoughts and have been for quite some time. Emilie loved you with all her being. We are all better people for knowing her.
Allison Baker and family

Rebekah said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I just found Emilie yesterday and I'd hoped to get to know her better. As a mom, my heart aches for you, your sweet boys, and your families.

Please know that there are many of us out here thinking of you. This is an especially hard time of year to lose someone so dear.

KJ said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am glad you were with her at the end. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love to you all from England.

Kaje

xx

Shea said...

My heart dropped once I read the title. I'm so sorry Steve. You and your family are in my prayers.

Madwoman of Preserve Path said...

Steve: I am so, so sorry. I'd known Emilie professionally (she the reporter, me the PR "flack) for a long time. Over the past year, we got to know each other in a new way via our blogs and writing. I'll miss her so much. She was a smart, wonderful, beautiful woman -- but of course you know that. My heart goes out to you and your sweet little boys.

Suzanna Catherine said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. Emilie was such a special person.

You and the boys are in my thoughts and prayers.

Q said...

Mr Lemmons,

She is in Heaven with the King. If only those left behind had it so easy . . .

Please know that there are people that you will never know, far and wide praying for you and the children, and we will continue to do so - for a very long time.

Michele said...

I am so sorry. Just so sorry. I am glad that she is free from pain and that you were able to be with her when she met the angels. I will keep you and the boys in my prayers, and I will light a candle for Emilie tonight at Christmas Eve Mass.

Brittney said...

I am so sorry. Your family's story is so inspirational. I will continue to pray for your family and never forget how precious life truly is.

MN_Headhunter said...

Stephen,

Bruce has been in touch with the fraternity brothers and we are here today, tomorrow, and the days ahead.

If there is anything we can do please call on me and I will get the word out.

Prayers to you.

Paul DeBettignies

Betseeee said...

I kept wishing for a miracle for Emilie. I think now I see the true miracle was Emilie herself. My heart goes out to you and your boys.

Christa said...

Your wife was a beautiful soul.

My thoughts are with you and your family and friends at this time.

Elizabeth said...

I only found the blog a few days ago.

You have all been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be so.

May she rest in peace, and may your memories of her always be a blessing and a comfort to you......

battynurse said...

Steve, I'm so sorry for your loss and that of the boys. Your family will be in my thoughts. Wishing you peace right now.

Jamie said...

I'm so sad to hear of Emilie's passing. And I'm sorry to say I won't be able to celebrate her life with you at the funeral as I will be out of town. My short friendship with Emilie was so rich and felt so intimate because of her blog. She was a large support person for me in my struggle with infertility and I am better for knowing her and your family. God bless you and your boys.

Jamie Proulx, friend from church

MrsSpock said...

Steve, I am sorry for the loss of your beloved wife, and to Daniel and Ben, on the loss of their very precious mother.

She left such touching last words, and the incredible legacy of your two boys.

I will light a candle in her honor tonight.

jbondsgirl said...

I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for your family now and throughout the coming days and weeks. I'm holding you all in my heart.

~Flicka

lauren said...

May God's peace be with you all. Emilie will be with you in spirit all the days of your lives!

Erin M. said...

I, too, "met" Emilie on the old TTC message board and then began following her blog religiously. Steve, thank you for your beautiful post. What a lovely last thought from your incredible wife. I loved her though we never met, and she will live on through your two darling sons. I am glad you were holding her hand, and please know the four of you are on my mind and in my heart. Emilie's memory is permanently engraved upon my heart. What an inspiring, strong, smart woman---and I am so grateful she shared herself with us through her writing.

I am so sad that she is gone, but relieved she was at home and with her family when she passed.

Thank you so very much for posting. Please take good care of yourself in the days and weeks ahead. And know that we are with you in spirit.

Kim said...

I am so so sorry for your loss.

Rebecca said...

Thank you Stephen. We will all miss Emilie, but none more than you and the boys. Our hearts are with you.

Almamay said...

Steve,
My thoughts to you and the boys. Emilie was a very special woman. I'm glad I found her blog.

SaraAugy said...

Steve-

I am so sorry to learn of Emilie's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your boys.

Meg said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I only 'knew' Emilie through her blog but come to think of her as a friend. Thank you so much for letting us into your life. She was a gentle, real soul-and I am the better for knowing her.

I will say a prayer tonight during Mass.

Peace,
meg from Lower Alabama

Laura said...

I am so very sorry for your family's loss. Emilie was a wonderful person and will be missed. I pray that you are able to find peace in knowing that she's no longer in pain. Thank you for sharing the beautiful quote with us.

Michelle M. said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I only started reading your blog just this week, but your family has been in our prayers. I will make sure that Emilie and your family is put into the petitions at our service on Christmas morning.

Praying for your family!

bleu said...

May she and all of you know peace.

I am so very sorry.

Bonnie said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for you and the boys. Emillie is sitting with Jesus looking down on you and the boys. She is pain free, at peace and full of JOY!

Thank you Emilie for sharing your journey with us. You are loved!

Emma B said...

God bless you and the boys, Steve, as you go through this difficult time. You are in our prayers.

May Emilie rest in peace.

Emily said...

My condolences to you and your family. I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you. You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

Truck Driver Wife said...

My heart aches for your family during this difficult time. Love and prayers to you and your family. THank you for sharing your beautiful Emilie and her story with us.

Sharon said...

My heart goes out to you and your entire family, Steve. My prayers are with each and every one of you.

God bless and keep you,
Sharon Straughan

Sarah P said...

Dear Steve, I have just returned from Mass here in Perth, WA and lit a candle at St Joseph's especially for you and your family. My heart aches at Emilie's death but soars to know she is pain free. Love and heartfelt sympathy to you. Sarah xxx

Melissa said...

I am so sorry. I am at a loss for words. Your kids will carry you through. That much I know.

Katie said...

I'm so sorry.

Journeywoman said...

What a lovely quote. I'm so sorry!

Alice said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I will miss reading her beautiful words.

Katie said...

I'm so sorry. Many prayers for all of you.

Jonathan and Tara said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I know Emilie was a wonderful wife, mother, and friend and she will be missed by so many people.

tara @ www.twolinesonastick.com

Amy said...

I am so incredibly sorry for your families tremendous loss of Emilie.

You will all forever be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lisa said...

So many people, including myself, are better because of what Emilie shared with all of us. My heart breaks for your pain, and you and your boys' loss. I'm so sorry.

May G-d grant you all peace and strength. Emilie, may you always be in the light of G-d.

Your family has been and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa, from the old TTC board

Janet said...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I've followed Emilie's blog for a little while now. I was drawn to it because I have battled sarcoma also. She was truly a beautiful person...and I thank her (and you) for sharing this journey with us in this blog.

Namaste, Emilie. The light in me honors the light in you. May your light shine...beautiful, bright, and free...forever in the hearts and minds of those who loved you and who you loved in return.

Edie said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying God's comfort for you and your family.

In His Love ~

Kim said...

I am so sorry. She fought hard until the end. I know that you will never stop loving her, and never stop missing her. But you're right, she is in a better place.. a place without pain, where she can watch down on her babies and her beloved in peace.

e c f e s w said...

Steve,

I am very sadden to hear the lost of your wife. I had come to admire her through her writings and have been reading her blog for almost 2 years. On December 20, 2006, i lost my husband to pain and suffering.

The only comfort I have at his passing is he is no longer in pain. I find that to be very comforting. I lost my father 2 months ago.

This time of year is always going to be painful. After the death of my husband, I built a home in my hometown and moved my parents in with me. I knew Dad didn't have much longer and the only comfort Mom has is that Dad is no longer in pain and I am here with her.

I will contact you later.
Feel free to contact me because i know what it is like to loose a soul mate. Ken was not my first, i lost my first husband when i was 33 to cancer.
Another blessing you have is those wonderful boys. Sadly, I wasn't blessed with children and that makes it even harder sometimes.

charfread@gmail.com

JenMen said...

I only learned of Emilie last week, but was deeply moved by her final blog post. I was filled with wonder at her courage and wisdom, and began to think deeply about my own life and priorities.
In these last few days, I've been thinking of her often as I'm with my own two boys. I hope that part of her legacy can be the deepened sense of appreciation for how precious our time here is. She will live on not only through the love she shared with her own family, but through the lessons of love she imparted to so many others, both friends and strangers.
I wish you much peace and comfort at this difficult time.

Not on Fire said...

I am sorry for your loss. I will be praying for your family.

Isa said...

I am very sorry for your loss and I am praying for you and your tow boys.

Monkeymama said...

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers. May the peace of Christ be with you during this time.

Martha said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I extend my sincere sympathy at the loss of your love.

~Chris~ said...

I am so very sorry to read about her passing. I just found her Blog a few days ago and I know what you are going thru. I was there a Year ago with my Sister.
I can't believe Emilie is gone.
My Heart goes out to you.. You are in my Thoughts and Prayers.
Sending Hugs

suzie said...

Steve,
I'm so sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing to you and your family. Emilie touched many with her eloquence, strength and love for you and her children. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

K77 said...

I am so sorry. Thinking of you and your children.

Skerry said...

Steve, Daniel & Ben please accept my heartfelt sympathies as you all grieve the loss of Emilie. I have been following her blog for quite some time. I found her blog by accident and her writing kept me coming back for more. From what I have read Emilie was a wonderful woman who loved life and her family. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers as you continue your the path as a family.

Elisabeth said...

Steve,
I've been reading this blog for the last 6 months or so, and truly enjoyed Emilie's writing. My heart is broken for you and your precious boys. My prayers are with your family!

-Elisabeth

Teri said...

I am so sorry for your family's loss. Emilie has touched many people along the way.

Melissa said...

I am so sorry to hear of her passing. I "knew" her through a MSN message board a couple of years ago. My thougths are with your family.

Ellen said...

Words do not come easily, but yet I have such a joyous image of Emilie with Christ. She got home just in time to celebrate Jesus' birthday with Him in heaven. God and his legions of angels surely welcomed her in all their glory.

My deepest heartfelt sympathy to all of your beloved's family and friends.

Mommyof2boys said...

I am very sorry for your loss,your family will be in my thoughts and prayers and may God be with you all during this time.

WiseGuy said...

Sorry is perhaps cliched, but there is nothing more left to say. I hope that E is in peace and that you and your family will have the strength to carry on. She left such a beautiful quote for all of us and it has touched me deeply....Prayers!

girlh said...

much love and strength to you and your boys.
may they always know what a beautiful woman their mother was.

Tom in Vegas said...

So sorry to hear this. I will pray for Emilie and for your family.

Tanya said...

I am heartbroken at this news... Steve, I'm so very sorry for your great loss and for the boys too. Emilie touched so many people's lives and was so inspiring to us all. My thoughts are with you and your family...
Tanya

Carly said...

Praying for peace over your family.

x

Betty M said...

I am so very very sorry. I have been reading here for a number of months and Emilie wrote so beauifully about you and your gorgeous boys. I am so sorry she was taken from you all so quickly but to stop seeing her being in such pain and distress will have been a release of sorts. Selfishly I hope that you will leave her blog up for those of us who kenew her only from a very long distance can remember her through her words as well as in our hearts.
I share with you a poem by an Englsh poet which I found a comfort when my brother in law was taken from us also young also leaving my sister with two small boys two years ago now:

So many different lengths of time by Brian Patten
How long does a man live after all?
A thousand days or only one?
One week or a few centuries?
How long does a man spend living or dying
and what do we mean when we say gone forever?

Adrift in such preoccupations, we seek clarification.
We can go to the philosophers
but they will weary of our questions.
We can go to the priests and rabbis
but they might be busy with administrations.

So, how long does a man live after all?
And how much does he live while he lives?
We fret and ask so many questions -
then when it comes to us
the answer is so simple after all.

A man lives for as long as we carry him inside us,
for as long as we carry the harvest of his dreams,
for as long as we ourselves live,
holding memories in common, a man lives.

His lover will carry his man's scent, his touch:
his children will carry the weight of his love.
One friend will carry his arguments,
another will hum his favourite tunes,
another will still share his terrors.

And the days will pass with baffled faces,
then the weeks, then the months,
then there will be a day when no question is asked,
and the knots of grief will loosen in the stomach
and the puffed faces will calm.
And on that day he will not have ceased
but will have ceased to be separated by death.

How long does a man live after all?
A man lives so many different lengths of time.

Wishing you all well.
Woith love fromm England.
Betty x

Meg said...

Like so many others here, I came late to know your wife, and have thought of little else in this past week. I had hoped she would live to see this Christmas, but instead, she lives somewhere else. My prayer is that you and your sons will not be left to fend for yourselves -- but, speaking as a wife and mother, I'm very sure that Emilie won't let that happen. She'll find a way to stay involved in your lives!

Sue said...

She was very much beloved indeed. My condolences to you and your family.

DutchBitch said...

I have never been over here before but just want to let you know I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the strenght possible.

Meg said...

Steve-
I want to let you know how very, very sorry we are for your loss. I am praying for you everyday.
Meg

Piccinigirl said...

OH Steve, I am so sorry. So sorry for you and the boys and for all of us who will miss her here on earth.
I know she is with God, I know she is happy and whole, but I am sad knowing she is gone. I will miss her more than you can know.

Please know that Emilie was beloved, here on earth and forever in my heart. She was an incredible person, she was a phenomenal mother, she was a light in this world and that light is dimmer now.

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Kir

Rebecca and Chris said...

As I read your post on this Christmas morning, the tune "What a Wonderful World" came on the radio.
While you may not feel that way right now, or for some time, please know that Emilie has touched the lives of many, many people and will continue to do so long after she is gone through you and her boys.

Jen said...

I am so sorry to hear that. I hope the boys know she will always be their special angel watching over them.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Christina said...

I'm so sorry to hear that! I was a lurker on Emilie's blog and was so touched by her words on motherhood, life, and death. God's blessings to all of you in this difficult time!

Lynn said...

Steve, I am so sorry for your loss. Although I never met Emilie in person, I have been following her blog for many months. I want you to know that I will always remember her. Through her words, my life has been so very blessed. I have learned how to appreciate the simple things and have grown in my own life because of Emilie's true wisdom. I send my prayers to you and those beautiful boys.

Busted said...

I'm so sorry for your loss and will be thinking of your family. What a beautiful quote.

Queenie. . . said...

Steve, I'm so sorry for you and the boys, and the rest of the people who loved Emilie. I've been following her for months, and found her quite amazing. You must feel very lucky to have had her in your life. My thoughts are with you all.

matt_in_the_los_angeles said...

i am so sorry.

steve, although i've never met you or your family, i talked to your wife several times during her battle with cancer. i assured her that i would be here for you if this day ever came.

please know that there are thousands of people out here willing to help in anyway you need it.

if you would ever like to talk, please do not hesitate to contact me.

mtlogelin (@) hotmail.com

http://www.mattlogelin.com

m.

maggie said...

I am so sorry. There aren't even right words to say, and you don't know me, but I'm thinking of you and your family today and for many days to come.

Emily said...
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Kelley said...

Steve, Daniel, and Ben,
I don't know you, and I didn't know Emilie, but I've read her blog every day since discovering it (through a link from Liz H.'s blog) maybe a year and a half ago. I'm so sorry. She was a joy, and I'm glad that she knew such deep love in her too-short life. Also, I am comforted knowing that the two of you were together to the end, Steve. Please know that people you've never even heard of are holding you in their hearts. We're three of them.

Kelley, Russ, and Eryn McAllister

Jess said...

I am so sorry for your loss, I am sure there is nothing I can say to ease your pain but I wish I could. I will pray for you and your sweet boys.

Tina said...

Im am sorry to hear of your loss our prayers are with your family during this sad time.

Emily said...

Steve,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have been following Emilie's blog since the Catholic Spirit article in 2007. While I only knew her through this blog and a couple of emails that we exchanged, I will always remember her incredible insight and kindness. As a mother of three boys, her words have come to mean a great deal to me.

My heart aches for you, Daniel, and Ben. Please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dora said...

I'm so sorry. What a loss for your family and the world.

The quote is beautiful. Thank you for taking the time to update us.

Wishing you and your boys as much peace as possible.

Kristen said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Melinda said...

I am so deeply sorry for you loss. I just came upon Emilie's blog as she was posting her last post. You and your children are in my prayers. May your faith and your memories of your dear wife comfort you in the coming days. Peace be with you. Melinda Browning

Tara said...

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Elizabeth said...

I am so sorry to hear of Emilie's passing. We will keep you and your beautiful boys in our prayers.

Emma said...

May her memory be eternal!

Our prayers are with you and your sons during this difficult time.

Esther said...

I am very sorry for your loss. My family and I are praying for Emilie's repose and your family.

Stacie said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. While I only just recently discovered your blog and read Emilie's writing, I will be forever inspired.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

nancy said...

Elilie was loved by so many. She will be missed and never forgotten.

Soapchick said...

Emilie was so loved because she had so much love to give. Her love for you and your boys will transcend the separation of death. Peace and love to you Steve. May God comfort you.

Elana Kahn said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. Give your precious children an extra kiss from me. May you find comfort that Emilie is in a better place now.

Seriously? - Erin said...

My Condolences. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts.

Kymberli said...

Steve, you and your boys are in my thoughts and prayers. Emilie was such a wonderful light and her spirit shines just as brightly.

Jess @ NBP said...

BIG HUGS!! I'm so sorry about that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Valerie said...

I am so sorry. Your wife was a very special person.

Jen said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been reading Emilie's blog for a while now.

I lost my husband in August to a sudden heart attack at 31 years old. I know how you feel. Please leave me a comment on my blog if you need anything or just want to talk.

I will be thinking about you and your family.

Jewels said...

I am so sorry and sad to hear about your loss - your family is in my prayers.

loribeth said...

Oh my, I am so very sorry to read this. She was an amazing woman (but I don't need to tell you that). My heart goes out to you & your family. Thank you for sharing her with all of us. She has been an inspiration to so many.

Miss Tori said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Steve. I pray that you can find peace during this time, and comfort in knowing that Emilie is no longer suffering.

May God bless your family.

Kelly said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I will keep your and your boys in my thoughts and prayers.

Cibele said...

OH No, My heart is broken for you and your little one.But you are right, she is free of pain suffering. May God be with you during these hard times

Lilith Silvermane said...

Steven, My family and I extend warm blessings and thoughts to you and your beautiful family. We are thankful that you were by her side until the end.

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Steve--I am so incredibly sorry. I am just speechless right now. I am really at such a loss for words that I leave my heart here instead.

andbabybmakesthree said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Emilie has taught us so much about love and how to truly live in the moment. When the everyday annoyances of life become too much, thinking of her makes me take a step back and realize I need to appreciate what I have. She really seems to have done it so well.

Thinking of you and the boys at this very difficult time.

D

Cara said...

Steve

The brave and beautiful words in Emilie's last past have stuck with me for days. They will continue to even as I pray for you and your boys daily.

Emily said...

I am so incredibly sorry. I know she is in a better place and that you and your beautiful boys will have the most incredible guardian angel walking with you for all your days...
Wishing you time to grieve and some peace in your heart knowing that Emilie is no longer suffering.
Thoughts, prayers and many hugs.
Emily & Sean

Marie said...

And yes, she was. Beloved, that is. God bless you all.

Far Side of Fifty said...

May her strong words help to hold you up. I am so sorry.

Julie said...

Emilie lived three doors down from me growing up. I remember playing with she, Mary and Suzanne in her bedroom when I was a little girl. We went through all of our school years and graduated from Sunset High School together. We had become reacquainted in the past number of months through our blogs and facebook. It has been a HUGE blessing in my life.

Emilie is without a doubt one of the sweetest people I have ever met in my life. She was so intelligent and just an all-around great person. I feel blessed to have been able to call her my friend.

I know many will miss her, as will I. I am grateful for the memories I have of my times with her.

Steve, to you and the boys, I just want you to know what a great example you have been to me. Although I have never met you and only learned of you through Emilie's writings, I have seen such an incredible example of selfless service as you've loved Emilie through this difficult journey.

I will be praying for you and mourning with you.

Alex & Jill said...

I can't believe she's gone...Emilie touched so many lives. She was beautiful inside and out.

Praying for you, Daniel and Ben, during this most difficult time.

*JEM* said...

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Eckel77 said...

There are no words, only blinding tears.

JuliaS said...

I am so sorry. All my thoughts and prayers for you and the boys.

Sugar and Ice said...

I am so very sorry.

robyn said...

I am so very sorry for you loss. My heart aches for you and your family.

Brett and Audra said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers

Jo on the go said...

Steve,

I most certainly will honor Em's request about the letters. I'm upset that I didn't write her back last week about it. Can you let me know if I should send it to her address, or to yours? I don't have yours.

Me: lovenewsjh@gmail.com

And because she said her pregnant friends comforted her a bit, I would love to know if she got my e-mail with the news about the birth of Desi Alexandra Love Edwards on Dec. 19.

I know you must be wondering how in the world you can cope without your soul mate, raising the boys, but I know you're going to be great.

Johanna

Kathy said...

I am so terribly sorry for your loss.... please know that you and your boys are in my thoughs and prayers... those boys will know what a strong person their mother was.

nizzle said...

Steve,

Emile was an extraordinary woman. I wish I could say something to comfort you in the face of this extraordinary loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful family during this exceedingly trying time.

xxxxxx

*~*~Elle~*~* said...

Thank you God for sharing Emilie with us.

Geohde said...

I am so sorry,

J

caro said...

You, your sons and your entire family are in my heart and thoughts.

Much love, Carolin

Christie said...

Very sorry for your loss! she wrote beautifully and i was praying for a miracle. best of luck to you and your boys for the future. at least emilie is no longer suffering. again, so sorry!

mikeandmonica said...

I am sorry for your loss. Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I never met her, but I have thought of you guys daily since someone told me about this blog.

Ames said...

Emilie would be laughing right now that it took me several days to realize that I had goofed the comment so...

Angels masquerading as people.

She certainly was!

Rebecca said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this incredibly difficult time.

Malia'sMama said...

I only this morning heard of this blog and just reading the quote and your post has moved me to tears. Many blessings as your newest angel watches over all of you from Heaven.

Janel said...

Steve,
I know it's been a million years since we have spoken, but I wanted to share my deepest sympathy with you and your children.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Janel Jeras Green

CLC said...

I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your boys. Beautiful quote, by the way.

megan said...

I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Hollie said...

So sorry for your loss.

Melanie Hinseth said...

Sweet Emilie,
Sleep in heavenly peace.

Stephen,
May you be feel comfort from our gracious God.

L said...

Stephen, SG (cardblueblog.com) and I read Jane Kenyon's poem "Otherwise," aloud on Christmas Eve to honor Emilie and drank a toast to her beautiful spirit and grace. Our pain is immeasurable, but equaled by admiration and love. Take care. We won't stop thinking of her, of you, and your lovely boys.

Kristin said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. Emilie was an amazing woman who touched many lives. Remember that our thoughts and prayers are with yo u.

Sarah R said...

My condolences to you and your family. May you find comfort in your sorrow with the legacy Emilie left and your beloved children.

Kari said...

Steve -- I didn't know Emilie, but I have been following her blog since this summer. Your family has been in my prayers and will continue to be. May God Bless You.

Dreamer4agift said...

I'm so so very sorry. May you find continued peace in your time of need.

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